A Lesson In Humility
“You thinking about gettin’ back into competitive swimming?”
This question woke me from my mesmerized daze from the two pool lanes next to me.
I turned my swim cap adorned head, squinting through my water speckled goggles, to see my newfound friend, Ernie, gazing back at me.
Two weeks prior, I had just started my swimming routine for my triathlon I will compete in this June, in honor of my fundraising efforts for Leukemia & Lymphoma Society and my friend, Mikey, who had battled the blood cancer that eventually took his life at the tender age of 20.
I smiled at my new friend, all of 81-years-young. Laughing out loud, I simply shook my head.
“No, never was into ‘competitive’ swimming. I am a triathlete.”
“I see,” Ernie grinned. “Well those guys next to you were all collegiate competitors and are now reliving their glory days by pushing one another. You should join them sometime.”
I looked back from Ernie, who was in the lane to my left, and glanced back at the “fast” guys swimming in their circlular motion - as several swimmers in one lane are known to do. My first thought to myself, “How could I join them?”
Then I realized something. I was receiving a lesson in humility in that very moment.
To my left, Ernie had been swimming since he was probably a kid, equating to roughly 70-plus years of swimming experience and had been a competitive swimmer for much of that time. And he was still going. He may not have been as fast as the guys next to me, yet, he was still going after it every day. Amazing inspiration.
To my right, there were multiple lanes of super fast swimmers who were probably in their 40s and 50s who, seemingly, had barely slowed from their glory days.
My initial thought in my head to Ernie’s suggestion was, “You’ve got to be kidding me”, how could I keep up with them? They are so much faster than I am?” Easy for Ernie to say. I have only been swimming somewhat seriously for the past seven years and there is a huge emphasis on that word somewhat. Being a triathlete does not mean that I swim like a fish. Heck, I still have anxiety attacks in the water some days.
Here I was comparing myself to those around me in my mind. And this was just a pool lane comparison. How often do I do that in life in general? Then a small voice chimed in to remind me of some wise words that I had just read in a book by Eckhart Tolle, entitled “A New Earth”.
“In essence, you are neither inferior nor superior to anyone. True…humility arise(s) out of that realization. In the eyes of (your) ego, self-esteem and humility are contradictory. In truth, they are one and the same.”
I pondered those words as I swam a few more laps. I agreed with Ernie after all. What was stopping me from joining those fast guys? Only my ego. These swimmers aren’t faster after all, they are simply more experienced in the area of swimming. If I were to go out and endure a run with them, especially a long-distance mileage run, they could look at me and appreciate the fact that I could go forever and they might not. There would be equal humility and appreciation for our independent skills and strength. No “better than” or “less than”. Just simply individuality and skills that were developed differently over a period of time over our lifetimes.
I plan on joining those guys next week and seeing how quickly I might be able to hone my skills by swimming in the same lane versus the lane next to them. Now I am excited to go to the pool and looking forward to swimming with Ernie in his lane one day soon as well. He can teach me a lot. Indirectly, today, he already did. His encouragement went farther than he realized.
Now I want to encourage you. Where do you see yourself comparing your abilities to others that may appear “better than” or “less than”? Is that productive thinking? Or does it cause you to miss out on opportunity to stretch yourself in some capacity - mentally, physically or even Spiritually? Give it some thought this week as you go about your day-to-day. It doesn’t hurt to get in that “fast” lane, or even that “slow” lane, and see what you realize about you.
Here’s To You!
Wednesday, March 26th, 2008
